“How are you So Happy?”

This is a question a friend asked me today, and I realized that it’s been a question I’ve fielded before in my life. 

It’s not an easy answer, of course, as we all have different life circumstances, biochemistry, traumas that we’ve endured and, I believe, karma that we carry.  And… I still believe this is a question worth answering from my personal perspective on how I have cultivated joy in my life.  

1. Deep Acceptance: Acceptance of self, of what is, of the Universe as light and dark. I’m talking like SOUL-level acceptance, and authentically embracing the world as it is.

   Some people have said: “the world doesn’t always have a silver lining, Meghann!” but I beg to differ. Every moment of darkness contains a kernel of light, just as the yin yang symbol suggests. It is up to us to see the light in the darkness. And it takes eating your carrots so you can see in the dark! (Vitamin A, baby!!!

2. Cultivating a mindset of both/and. The mind gets really twisted up in confusion thinking that we are separate, and things are separate, and that the world is full of this or thats.

   It’s not - everything is on a spectrum and the world is complex. Things are interconnected and woven together like intricate tapestries. So it’s not as simple as good/bad, black/white, wrong/right. The illusion that the world is easy enough to split into categories puts us through a lot of grief and we can feel disoriented and chaotic with this confusion.

3. Generosity of Spirit. Giving people the benefit of the doubt really brings your heart into an alignment with the good of humanity and the innate integrity of the Universe.

   Our unhappiness can often be a remnant experience of someone else’s pain, mistakes, or unkind actions. People hurt us and there are people in the world who are not looking out for your best interest (in fact, most people are often just looking out for their own best interest - this is true!). However, looking for the good in humanity magnetizes more good. And understand this: when someone hurts you, it is often just their own pain radiating out onto you. This awareness helps you cultivate compassion instead of anger, blame or taking on their pain.

4. Embrace Love: Let people into your heart. Be receptive to tenderness. Drink in the intimacy between friends, family, kids, pets and lovers. Express your endearment of others - it will boomerang back to you tenfold. Feel your human desire to connect and follow that thread - it will lead you to that feeling of interconnectedness with the Universe… to Love. You will see the world through the same rose-colored glasses that I do: LOVE.

5. See Fear for what it really is. Fear is a warning that you are on the edge of something. Whether it is the edge of a cliff, or the edge of a transformative experience - fear is an emotional indicator that there is something exciting, perhaps a little dangerous, but definitely something powerful on your horizon.

   Excitement and fear register in the nervous system in the same way. You can transmute fear from an unpleasant experience to an arousing one by simply seeing the situation from a different angle. I don’t mean to say you should jump off that cliff… but then again, maybe you should if there are deep waters below? It’s up you and your own risk assessment to decide what’s best in that moment of anticipation, with the awareness that either danger or heart-stopping opportunity awaits. Galvanize it.

6. Really FULLY feel the sadness. While life is a spectrum and I do not believe we are either this or that, there are poles to the spectrum. The inverse emotions to happiness are sadness, melancholy, sorrow, grief… The world can be a very sad place, indeed. There are certainly things that happen in our lives that generate deep despondency: death, rejection, illness, injustice, loss, endings, unexpected outcomes… In order to fully feel your capacity for joy and happiness, you must sit in this sadness with full acceptance that it is real, it is happening, and like all emotions, it will come to pass after you’ve let it run its course.

7. Connect! This brings me to my final and most important HOW. Because we live in a complex world and because we are humans who have more elaborate needs than other animal brethren, we have deeper needs associated with the co-regulation of our nervous systems.

   Some people have cast judgment on me for jumping from relationship to relationship in my life, however, I was born with a partner - my twin sister Jacqui has been with me since conception. I’m used to having a partner in crime always around - someone I deeply connect to.

   I feel all these alliances I’ve had since birth have created a coherence, a sense of belonging and a deep rooted bond to my innate interconnectedness that has prevailed. Even when I have not been in romantic partnership, my friends and family have held my heart in theirs and my connection to humanity and life itself has persisted.

SO… that’s a lot of words and thoughts. What is the actual HOW here, Meghann?  

I believe much of the above can be distilled down to a few practices: Self-Love Practices, breathing meditations, intentional reflection and journaling, conscious relating with others and deliberate dialogue with a mental health professional that understands the spectrum of the human experience.

This is why I chose to be a coach - so that I could have these conversations with people for a living.  I have been having these conversations with people for years as a barista, a bartender, a friend, a community member and even a stranger on an airplane. 

I intentionally decided to go out into the world and direct my training at intentional conversations so that I could really hone my skills as a listener and a healing force for people who are hurting in the world.   

If you are interested in working with me or learning the practices that expand my joy and prosperity - contact me here. 

I would love to have a deeper conversation with you.

Connection is Key.

This is Why Connection is Key to a Prosperous & Pleasurable Life.   

Have you ever gone on a life-changing vacation and felt SO ALIVE, so liberated and completely connected??  Only to come home and feel even WORSE because the contrast from how you feel in the day to day versus how you felt while away on retreat is so striking.  

This is because while we are away from our regular life, we are more attuned to new sensation - our system is alert to new smells, new sounds, new sights! We are ready and excited to connect with the world fresh!  However, we return home to the regularly scheduled program, and life feels dulls again.  What is this all about? 

There is a massive plight that has struck our world: DISCONNECTION.  It runs so much deeper in us than we even know.  Though the internet tricks us into believing we are more connected than ever... our wires are crossed, our attention is split, and we have a hard time focusing, being present, and genuinely connecting. We are inextricably woven into the tapestry of the Universe, yet we feel separate from it.  We love our family and children, yet we can’t help but pay more attention to screens and robots than the living, breathing beings in front of us.  

I owned a sweet coffee shop for 6 years in a small mountain town.  I LOVED it - it was my entire life.  

Two days after my second child was born, we were informed that the building had sold - we needed to close up the shop in 4 months  I was entirely devastated.  

My lifeline to my community felt like it was ripped from me.  

My relationship to my Self and my purpose felt torn into shreds.  

I associated my work and life as one thing. 

I felt something inside me die.

I wasn't sure how to reawaken my fire - lost and confused... I struggled and grasped for a few years to understand what could possibly come next.  

Then I began my healing journey through Sex Magick and plant medicine work.  Sex Magick awaken my senses and connection to self-love.  Plant medicine stirred my spirit and deepened my internal awareness.  I began meditating, listening deeper, slowing down and really tuning in to the Sacred aspects of my life and this world.  

I woke up to the fact that the café was never about coffee - it was entirely about CONNECTION - 

connection with my staff, my customers, beautiful art, magical music, enlivening dancing, wacky creative events... 

It was about being amongst kindred spirits.  

I knew my next career move would be heart-centered, and focused on the interdependence of life.  

I began my quest to figure out how to share my unique gifts with the world.  After 2 years of Transpersonal Psychology and an intensive year long program with the Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality, I knew what my calling was…  bringing people back into connection. 

Becoming a Relationship coach felt like the most important thing I could do with my time, as I believe everything is born from relationship.  Our relationship to one another, the planet, the elements, the animals and most importantly, to our Self.  

I have built a few meaningful, purpose-driven businesses.  A café, an event space, a tea company, an artist co-op…  

I have followed my heart in life and succeeded in building the life I desire.  

I have overcome sexual numbness and reconnected back to my pleasure to find my power.  

I have dedicated the past few years to learning how to help others do the same.  

I love to connect with people through play, nature, meaningful practice and deep conversation. 

In my coaching: 

I help people tell their story.

We tease out what is theirs and what is not. 

We gain clarity around their true desires.

We connect them back to their pleasure and power through that deep connection.

We build their self-love and confidence. 

We explore the Soul Self through parts work, artistic expression, exploration in nature, plant medicine journeys, mindfulness, breathwork and an array of self-pleasure practices. 

Bit by bit we create play and pleasure practices that reconnect them to their Soul Self.  

We have FUN and find meaning in the mundane.  

We ENJOY life and celebrate the vibrancy of life.

5 TOOLS I USE IN MY PRACTICE:

Tantric Approach to life - instead of having a dualistic mindset of either/or, I nudge my clients toward full acceptance with a Both/And approach.

Storytelling: Flip the script.  STORY… we all carry stories. The story you choose to tell will write your entire life! 

Nature & Ritual - connecting to the earth and creating a meaningful relationship through sacred songs, prayer and ritual.

Play & Pleasure Practices - PLAY activates softness, openness, and receptivity.  PLEASURE motivates and enlivens! ENJOY and celebrate this human body through PLAY & PLEASURE!

I teach you empowerment through orgasm! 

I am a PROSPERITY COACH who uses pleasure and empowerment to help people become magnetic to their desires in business and in love. Together, we will create harmony and coherence in your life.

I dare you to seek… 

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